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🌈 9 Promising Ways To Deal With Job Search Depression and Anxiety

Depressed over your job search? There are many ways to get help.

9 Promising Ways To Deal With Job Search Depression and Anxiety

This article is a guest post by Isabella Mori of Change Therapy.

Among career practitioners, we often speak of the “roller coaster of job search.” It looks like this:

Job Search Depression - Job Search Rollercoaster

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We’ve all been there, haven't we?

If this is your story right now, why not just go back to watching Oprah in your pyjamas, accompanied with a big bowl of potato chips and maybe pick up the phone tomorrow to call up that lead that Joe gave you yesterday. Nah, tomorrow is not a good day. Maybe next week some time.

Sound familiar? If this happens to you, it’s possible you’re just procrastinating a bit, you’re resting for a few well-deserved days, or you’re just having an off-day.

Or – you’re depressed.

There’s those off days, and the job search blues – but if the pattern of lack of motivation, feeling utterly blah, unexplainable crying even, or other uncomfortable moods persist for more than two weeks, if the down parts of that rollercoaster last too long and happen too often, chances are you are in a depression.

The previous articles in this series have talked about causes and signs for depression. Let me talk a bit about what to do.

The good thing about depression – yes, there are a few good things about depression – is that often, there’s much that can be done, and I certainly can’t list all of them here.

Today, I’d like to lean on the words of a fellow blogger, Emma McCreary, who commented on an article of mine, Two Views Of Depression, a little while ago and see how we can use her ideas to help with job search depression.

How long have you felt job search depressed?


9 actions you can take today

  1. Identify cognitive distortions such as focusing on the negative (“Yes, I have a degree in accounting but last year I made I mistake on a spreadsheet!”) and deal with them.
  2. If you’ve been on anti-depressants before and they have helped, maybe it’s time to use them again – talk to your doctor!
  3. Don’t just “suffer it”; please realize that you have a right to feel serene and content, and nobody benefits from your feeling down.
  4. Share your experience with others, with your friends and family, with a local support group, or online.
  5. Visit a counselor; sometimes just one or two visits can make quite a difference.
  6. Practice meditation and relaxation.
  7. Educate yourself; read a book such as Listening to Depression.
  8. Recognize that depression is often a coping mechanism. Don’t reject your depression; accept your parts that look “broken.”
  9. Practice non-violent communication and learn to talk gently and compassionately to yourself.

About the author

Isabella Mori is Canada's blogging psychotherapist. She blogs about psychology, creativity, spirituality and social justice over at Change Therapy and can be reached at moritherapy [at] shaw [dot] ca.

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Alan Wilensky says

It’s gonna take more that this type of pop psychology to help the thousands that are in for a rough ride.

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isabella mori says

Thanks for your comment, Alan.

What suggestions do you have?

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Alan Wilensky says

My G-d, have we not sufficient reproofs that have overtaken us? Have we not seen how bedrock productivity has been robbed from the tradespeople and artisans and pushed up the ladder to the top 2% of professional executives and VC undertakers. ?

Ask for antidepressants? Where do you get this? Your crime is so egregious that you do not what that you commit it! Meditation? Good, for sure; but as a answer to a fundamentally ailing workforce?

Where does one begin to straighten out this kind of superficial journalism that aims to merely take up space – a phenomenon that has blossomed since the advent of blogging.

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isabella mori says

hi alan, thanks for continuing the conversation.

i’m guessing that you see work related depression in a sociopolitical context.

i don’t know what jacob’s plans are but i think that would definitely be another interesting blog post. interestingly enough, i just left a comment on another blog where i reminded the writer of the adage, “the personal is political and the political is personal.”

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Bonnie says

I have a M.Ed. in Pyy. I am suppose to be helping people. I cannot find a job, I am in debt with school loans and I feel that my life is worthless. I thought I was strong, but sometimes I want to just give up.

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Alana says

How are you supposed to get antidepressants and counseling if you don’t have a job to get health insurance? I need antidepressants but I have no way of getting them because I don’t have insurance since I don’t have a job. Its a viscious cycle!

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Juliet says

Where do you find the meds when you are out of work and have no money?

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Ben says

The graph is not realistic at all. You have to add in a lot more “no response,” “didn’t get the job,” and “rewrite resume” sections. Also add in a timeline at the bottom. Is that supposed to be days, weeks, or months?

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Nikki says

This isn’t worthy enough to be called advice. Rather than reassuring luckless jobseekers like myself, you are patronizing them and telling them that the only real solution is to either read useless self-help books or bung up their systems with anti-depressants. Your stigmatization of us is simply perpetuating a self-fulfilling prophecy of being weak and inadequate. Thanks a lot ‘Doctor’-if you ever find yourself out of a job,test exactly how useful your own advice is.

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Frank says

Oh, I see. If I just meditate and read a few self help books, all of the problems of not having any money because I can’t find a job will just go away. I had no idea that meditation would get me a job. Bravo!

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karl says

I haven’t worked for 5yrs. I don’t have the money to buy gifts or cards.
I look back on my life as a loser.
My children hate me and they don’t talk to me too much I guess they have problems too.
I don’t have a phone can’t afford one.
I used to make good money but my family says I never did so I don’t talk to them or break bread with them.This is how I cope writing and reading
no talking to any of my old friends and if I bump into them I walk as fast away as I can.

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    Rose says

    Hi Karl
    I do understand you. I live a similar situation.
    I used to be some one who had money, power, a lot of friends and made so many people happy. I had a burnout and I resigned without thinking of the consequences, I thought I will find another job, one month became 5 then Year and no job despite my high profile. My phone stopped to ring the first month, no one is asking me how am I doing they just avoid me, I lost all my money ( retirement plan) my dignity, my respect, I though I was strong I went through difficult times but I had always my job to help me to forget and move on, today I’m useless, alone, I try to find strength in side of me but it’s empty. I have decided to end my life many times but even with that I was not successful, Each morning I wake up put my clothes and start to send emails, cvs, calls, no response, the evening again depression alone face to my failure and wondering where did I miss up ? why me ? a lot of questions no book or pills can answer to it

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      Jen says

      Hi Karl. You sound like such a intelligent experienced person and It must be so frustrating. I have only been able to get fixed contract work through a recruiter for many years, a last and only job option I have had, failing to secure permanent and reliable work. However, now it seems to be a total dry spell getting any job, which has pushed me due to desperation onto Centerlink, a terrible and awful job centre in Australia. What makes it worse, is the government raising educational costs so high it’s scandalous that any chance of job up-skilling along with taking any VET loan is one of fear as well as affordability has driven me out of this opportunity, when other expensive as food, rent, rates, travel and health have taken so much priority. Also having learning difficulties doesn’t help either and I find myself suffering from anxiety, fear and depression as well. It’s also a vicious cycle to get help, as it costs money I don’t have. Most certainly, pills and books don’t help the situation and neither does the government, who have made unemployment worse over the years, with their unstoppable immigration and visas and lack of insight at business closing down all around us and high commercial rents and rates as well. The only thing we people can do is keep out chin and totally throw rubbish at the Politian’s.

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Emily says

You do not need antidepressants. There are spiritual practioners at the Centers for Spiritual Living in every city in this country that are more than willing to support you through counsel – positive, uplifting, affrimative, encouraging, and empowering counsel, without any of the religious stuff. Just good spiritual connection and people holding the best for you.

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Mimi says

I am currently unemployed. I have been for 6 months. I have a MBA and BBA in Finance. I just chose the wrong job after graduation… listened to the wrong recruiter… and failed to take heed to the warning signs of the miserable failure of my former company. I no longer feel confident in my ability (even though others constantly praise me for my education and career accomplishments) to find a job or endure the realities of corporate America. Six months is a long time. I am at my breaking point. I feel like a failure. I don’t know what to do except for wait.

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Alan Wilensky says

Mimi, I hope you read this. Although 6 months is not a long stretch to be out of work in this economy, it is not a good situation. You have very good credentials, and that is saying a ton. Please, dear, hear me as one who was out of work for all of 08, part of 07, and I am self employed, still there were no clients with work.

Mimi, look at the skills you practiced at your last job, and break it worn into actual deliverable chunks that small and medium businesses can use. Place ads on all of the on-line sources and make a simple, ugly blog or website with a services menu. Write a couple of articles from the heart about your skills and how you envision delivering them to your potential clients.

Then, go out to everyone you know, every single friend and colleague, cousin, everyone, skip the on-line job board, screw them they all die, and ask about if they know anyone who needs these services, and, what kind of new and unfulfilled finance and other specialty services the small and med businesses need.

Come up with a flair and a twist, a special promotion or be the type of finance consultant that is open, humorous or some other trait that makes you stand out from the crowd.

DO not be like the typical people on TV interviews, “I have sent out 500 resumes. I cant get a job.” I have compassion for these folks, but you need to make personal connections with the clients or employer that holds the key to your next check. Do not work with HR, do use recruiters, the devil’s seed. Only use a professional headhunter that you can meet and talk with.

You have skills, you have an education, you can break out and deliver these skills directly without a big corp behind you. Do not think of this as “starting a company”, that is too much and stressful. Just put your self out there and do one Google search for me, “Havi Boorks”. Good luck dear, you can do it.

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Bianca says

I was laid off in 09′. From there I lost my car and my condo…couldn’t afford either anymore. I moved in with my boyfriend and quickly starting noticing my confidence and esteem diminish. At 28 I’ve worked since I was 14 years old and supported myself and I worked hard for everything I had. Then it was just gone. I didn’t just lose my financial stability, I lost my selfworth. And that was priceless. In 2010 I thought I was lucky enough to catch a break when I was given the opportunity to work a paid internship. It wasn’t my ideal job but it was a chance to jump off of my unemployment for awhile and work. When those 4 months came to an end I tried to refile. I was told that since this was an internship they didn’t have to report my earnings…be it paid or not. My unemployment has been done for a month now. I’ve been living literally pennies a day. Ramen noodles and what not.

I am mad constantly..I cry as I write this. I dont even know who this person is…I never cried over anything. I never rolled over and accepted things for what they were..

I lash out at everyone and anyone. I was successful and now I apply for anything..minimum wage jobs with uniforms.

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Jacob Share says

Dear Bianca-

You are still the same amazing person with the incredible success story of supporting yourself from age 14!

All your skills and abilities are still there. You’re just going through a slump, like a baseball star who all of a sudden can’t seem to hit the ball anymore. If it happens to the best players – and it does, every single one – it can happen to you.

How do those other stars get out of their funk? By continuing to practice and play through it until that lucky day when they finally can hit again, and then they pick up from where they left off before the slump.

You need to do the same thing… with a bit of a twist. Those players have the support of their rich teams during their troubles, and if you’re on Ramen noodles, you also need some temporary extra support that will allow you to concentrate on a serious job search attempt for a position that matches your impressive skills.

Are there any family members or friends that can help you, or even host you for now?

How you tried contacting previous employers to see if they could use your skills once again?

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anon says

Thank god for alan for putting into words (if a bit harshly) my thoughts as I read that article. I’m sure whoever wrote this had a genuine desire to help and who knows it may have been the right pick-me-up for some teen out there but reading it noe after spending yet another night searching for jobs instead of sleeping , the last thing i want to hear is pop some anti-d’s , your depression doesn’t benefit anyone, hey presto meditate and your depression will be gone! there are no quick fixes honey! its just very amateur. You need to think a few graves deeper into those ideas if your ever to broach this topic again!
and dear god people anti depressants are THE LAST thing a depressed body/mind should be taking. anti depressants are the biggest selling point for pharmaceutical companies like Pfizer and the rest. after a year of s shit doctor jumping to give me them a new doctor doing her internship joined the pracice and recommended COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY without a mention of pills – the same success rate as anti depressants; 2/3rds she claimed. i start on tuesday we’ll see how things go! i’m only 20 but if i’ve learned one thing about this curse its that depression is not imaginary, it’s something that needs a lot of work and lifestyle changes not well-meaning pseudo science !!

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anon says

*now *practice..also got lazy with the punctuation sorry 😛

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Valentina says

I’ve been looking for a job for the past 3 months, doing some temp work but not enough to even make a dent. The past 2 weeks have been especially hard for me, realizing the amount of interviews I’ve been to and that my savings are running out. I have another interview tomorrow with another “temp agency” so hope they can keep me busy for awhile. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even feel like eating at times, because I’m so preoccupied. Food costs money and money is what I don’t have now. It’s so hard living in a city and doing anything without spending some type of money. So I’m housebound for now, keeping my fingers crossed that things will start looking up for me.

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Dave says

I’m about ready to blow my brains out. srsly. I can’t take this much more. I f’n HATE it.

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    Pigbitin Mad says

    I was about to comment that “No, this A-hole who wrote this does not know what it is like to be continuously job hunting for well over 10 years only to get nothing.”

    We are not all in this together I AM ALONE in this and nothing will help because of our stupid way we have decided to reorganize work in general. Namely, everyone is a consultant and is therefore their own marketing person, assistant, programmer, writer, biller, accounts payable person and salesperson.

    I repeat, it is a stupid way to live but we are stuck with it and powerless to do a goddamn thing about it. The world is getting stupider, meaner, nastier and more cut throat. Only people who know very advanced computer coding willl ever be able to do more make, sell and buy $#!TTY crafts on etsy made with a 3D printer.

    The mind boggles at the stupidity of it all and I am serious when I say I would rather just get on a plane to Switzerland where Euthanasia is apparently legal. EFF THIS!!

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Melissa says

Prayer means never having to leave a voice mail message – He answers every ring.
Dear Lord, I am a lowly sinner, a product of the 60’s, experimented with things I knew were wrong. I had an abortion, did drugs, lied and didn’t care. I always worked since 14 and held jobs in office administration. Even went to work high numerous times when younger. Now at 57, I’m laid off my job of 7 years. Application after application for 15 months, no food stamps and very little unemployment left. I feel empty inside, as if Evil is punishing me for my younger lifestyle. I try to be happy around my kids and then cry when they go to their own homes. I enjoy working and have very good skills. Why, then Lord, can’t I get a job? I’m scared. I remember when I could laugh and not worry. I want those days back. Please forgive me for I know here on Earth we are not perfect. I know my faith is real and that you hear my prayers. I really need you now Lord. I wake up every day and thank God for everything in my life. He is good and knows me best. Hear my prayer Lord. With all my heart and soul, please forgive me.

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Jacob Share says

Melissa- The Lord helps those who help themselves. You need to stay active but not just for the sake of being active. You say you have good skills. If so, why are companies not hiring you? Ask them why they rejected you. That will give you a starting point to take action to right your job search ship.

Adam- it’s tough but you can and *will* pull through. Look at how you’re managing- you clearly have some good survival skills.

Stop scouring the help wanted ads; you’re just setting yourself up for a fall because those ads are being seen by many people, almost all of whom are going to get the same result as you- no job offer and a feeling of rejection.

Instead:
1) Contact any past bosses that liked your work and see if they have any more work for you or can refer you to someone who does.
2) If an entry-level job can tide you over for now, make yourself presentable and go for a walk to the nearest mall or part of town where there are many stores. Don’t even look for hiring signs, just go into the stores you’re qualified to help and ask if they have any openings. It could even be part-time.

More tips here:

Long Job Search? 25 Action Tips To End Yours ASAP

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Emily says

Jacob,

Thank you for writing this. I’m so confused. I’ve only been out of work for a year and a half or so, (or is it two?) but I feel I’m finally at the end of my rope. I apologise for how long this post will be, but I need to say everything that has happened to my husband and I for the last three years. I need to know I’m not the failure I feel I am… that this misery we both feel now will pass.

My husband is 30, I am 29 this year. We live in the UK, in a small town in the countryside.
I’m an artist and designer with a degree. In 2008 I was employed as a signwriter in a local village, a job I’ve never trained in or even thought about until I got asked to the interview. I got the job; it was in a small company a few miles away (walkable distance) run by one man in his garden workshop, but he had a van and had lots of business. I cut coloured vinyl into signs by machine, and designed text and signs for cars and shop fascias.

I loved that job; as an artist it was wonderful to work with colour, work physically with my hands and make things every day. The work wasn’t that exciting but the family was lovely and it was a short walk from my home, and only minutes from where my husband (then my fiancée) worked in a nearby factory. Every other week I could meet him as he finished work and we’d walk home together. It was especially lovely in the summer.

For six months we were happy. Then my husband’s company started to make people redundant. They made my husband redundant more than three times over the coming months; letting him go, then taking him back. The emotional strain we were both under was excruciating… but we stayed strong. We had to.

Around that autumn (’09) my own boss called me and my co-worker in, saying tearfully that he would have to reduce our (already minimum wage) hours to a three-day week, or risk going under. We stuck it out as best we could for a few months, until I was offered a job by a friend who worked in a company some 20 miles away, as a Creative Designer. They sent me a few pieces of work to test me, then offered to employ me full time. I had been at my signwriting job for exactly one year.

Not having a car or license, I took the train for a while to my new job, before a co-worker offered to drive me . turned out he lived in the same village I worked in before. The new job was very high stress and my superior had a personal loathing for the man who gave me lifts; who was often late. Things became quite unpleasant between them.

I gradually came to realise that I’d been hired almost on a whim. The company director had no idea what my real skills were, or even why I was there. (On the day of my ‘interview’ my superior wasn’t there, so I was interviewed by the director himself – who later admitted he had no idea who I was or even what I could do.) My (then soon to be) husband was still employed at that point, but the final round of redundancies were looming and everyone knew the factory hadn’t long to go.

Amid all this, my husband and I were married in a tiny local registrars. We’d been engaged for about a year and decided there was no time like the present… the wedding was under £500, including the ceremony, certificates, photographer, suits and wedding dress. We could not afford a honeymoon, and haven’t had one to this day (it’s on our to-do list). But neither of us mind… I love him more than any other person in this world.

Finally my husband was made redundant for the last time. With him unemployed I had to face the fact that my own wage was not enough to support us. The strain was so great I would often make trips to the office toilets to cry throughout the day. My friend, who put me forward for the job and who lives in very different circumstances than us (living at home with a parent, paying v. low rent/bills, drives, single, higher wage and much less to worry about) thought I was insane for even considering leaving a job in the midst of a recession. I tried over and over to explain that I had no choice; the company had refused to raise my pay by the 2K or so a year I needed to keep us… that we were barely scraping by even with the free lifts from my colleague; what if they stopped? On top of it I was at my wits end; my husband the only thing keeping me going. I felt that the company saw me as totally expendable. Their view being, if I wasn’t happy on my current modest 16K salary, they couldn’t raise it out of principle; if they did it for one, they’d have to review all the other staff who were owed pay rises. They would rather let me go.

We reached an agreement to not renew my contract, and I left after having been there for another exact year.

I later learned through a once-colleague that the company hired two new staff to replace me, at slightly less than my own wage – each. A small, cold comfort to know I was doing the work of two people. The company has since undergone radical changes, and may relocate to London in the near future. I have also learned that if I did ask to go back, it’s likely my salary would be less than it was previously.

Since leaving my last job, neither my husband nor I have found work. For a while (about 6 months) I stayed positive, learned more about self-employment, and threw myself into my artwork. I saw more of my husband than I had in years (owing to my long travel hours and his factory shifts), and we were poor, but so happy to be together all the time. I scraped together savings to enter my work in a big annual show with a fellow craftsman, hoping against hope to sell some pieces.

The show did not sell. Many people went, my work was very popular, but not one person bought. That was last summer. Since then, I find myself crying spontaneously, feeling lower and lower as the months go by. My husband has black days, too. After a while we were moved on to joint benefits, our money went down even more, and now the government has us on ‘the work programme’. The job centres are so over-crowded with jobless people like us, that the government introduced the above scheme to cope with the strain; hiring outside companies to monitor our job hunts and ‘offer advice’. Even the job centre staff are losing their jobs now. The WP scheme is a scam, the offices are an hour away by bus and the ‘one-to-one advice’ consists of nothing but endless online job-searches and re-writing of CVs. The government says we have to attend these meetings for two years, or until we find employment.

I feel utterly worthless, always afraid, always on the brink of despair. My whole life I’ve had my art, and now I can’t afford materials. Even more frightening, I now catch myself looking at my unfinished pieces and thinking “what’s the point?”. I feel I’ve lost the one thing that gave me self-worth. There aren’t even part time jobs where I live, even though there are lots of small shops.

I try to look to the future, and all I see is the present. An endless stretch of empty job hunts and ignored CVs… sitting here for years, until one day I’ll look around and realise I have absolutely no joy left in me. I feel like all of us unemployed, the billions of us all over the world, are invisible. Without a job we have nothing, no self-definition, no self worth… no interest in collecting the things we used to love (we can’t afford them) …no escape from the repetition, from the limbo. I used to laugh when asked if I’m thinking of having kids some day (nearly 30 and all that.. tic toc..) ….but we can’t afford children, though nothing would make me happier.

Is it me? Am I broken? What do we do, all of us, if this goes on for years to come? How can we live?

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Sandy Rodriguez says

Ok…….. That all sounds like great advice.. Buuuuuuut let me give you some advice. If I can’t find a job which I cant. I have no money and have not had insurance for the past four years because I was laid off from a job that closed in which I thought I would retire from….. Any who, so no money, no medical insurance, no help from the government like foodstamps and such how can I afford to see a counselor, therapist, or buy prescription anti-deprresants. Bottom line is this didn’t help me at all. And I may just be venting here but it sucks… I have my Bachelor’s in Business Administration and the only job prospects are 8 and 9 dollar an hour call center night jobs that haven’t even called me back. O Lord please help me and my two girls. I am just going to keep praying.

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Eli says

Emily,

I can relate to the feelings of despair and worthlessness. Like you, I seem to have lost my passion. In May I am receiving my Master’s degree in Human Development and Family Science, emphasis in Couple and Family Therapy. Instead of feeling excited and hopeful, all I feel is anxiety and despair. My number one fear in life is not being successful at my job or not getting a “real” job (not necessarily making a ton, but enough to not have to stress out about money all the time and enough to buy a house someday) or not liking the job I have. The only time I’ve felt alive and excited and happy in the past 5 years was when I was doing my internship where I was facilitating therapy with people, working as their therapist. That lasted for 2.5 years as required by my program. That ended 2 years ago and I had to replace my unpaid internship with paid jobs to support myself until I finished my thesis and was officially done with school. So, I’ve just had regular jobs, not doing therapy, and have been steadily becoming more and more unhappy with these jobs (I have two) and more and more worried about what my future holds. These jobs I have now are in social services, but they are low wage, high stress jobs. I used to enjoy them in the beginning, but the stress and crappy pay are just too much to handle. I really hope that I can find a job in my field because I am not one of those people who can just work whatever job even if they hate it. I do that right now and I feel like my soul is dead. I feel for you and I hope we all get through this.

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Valerie says

Hello:
I soo understand where everyone is coming from. I’m constantly looking for work and I get sooo tired and frustrated. I have a 4 year degree in sociology, but it doesn’t matter how many degrees that a person may have, it remains the same in it’s not what you know, but who you know. I pray and ask God for courage and strength and I still feel discouraged! I feel like giving up! I’m at my limit where I want to give up and say, “what’s the use?”

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Emily says

Eli,

How did your results go?

I don’t know if it helps, but I don’t think many people our age or 25-35, especially those who stuck it out through college/uni, HAVE ‘real’ jobs at all… at least, not ones that lasted longer than a year or so. My husband and I are always stressing about money – and if I’m honest, I stressed about money for the two or three years between leaving uni and meeting him. And the four years during uni itself. I wonder sometimes how many of us are all in the same situation.

I still have days when I’m fine, feeling like I’m almost normal… and don’t even really remember why I was so utterly depressed in the first place. And then the next day I could be a mess, feeling so worthless I can’t even go outside.

I hope you’re doing ok.

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Sonya Gillacio says

I am so glad I live in New Zealand! Whether we have a job or not we have healthcare cover. And we can access pharmaceuticals at reasonable prices. I too am suffering from job search depression but if I should choose to I can get anti-depressants for next to nothing. Hey guys what have you got against universal health care?

But back to the issue at hand. It’s just too darn easy to lose a job in this rationalised world and too darn hard to find another one.

The best policy:- just keep trying and you will eventually land something.
And remember its not your fault!

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Hall Jimmy says

I have been unemployed since 2009 except for work at Avaya which has taken me to near suicide numerous times. I have had 2 heart attacks , 3 bypasse, depression, memory loss from “pump head” FROM USING THE HEART LUNG MACHINE. My self worth had dropped to nil. I have filed for Social security Disability and am waiting the out come which could be weeks. I have 3 kids in college that i refuse to remove from school because of my issues.

I have had to walk away from Avaya because of depression and the lack of hope. I am 57 years old 30 years of IT and telecommunications and was one of the best in the northeast at one time, now I barely have the respect of close friends since I have so much doubt. At 57 I am dropped from interviews because of age and perceived lack of knowledgeand just too old.

My God bless all those that are searching and may he guide you to a opening for you. I must not be at a point of deserving as yet for I have failed so many times at so many interviews and positions.

Thank you for a space to speak 917 776 1179. It is closer to the end as my heart cannot continue to take this pressure and the doctors cant feel what it is like inside that must get out or be put to silence

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