If you’re depressed over your job search like so many other job seekers, know that there many ways to get help, as psychotherapist Isabella Mori writes.
This article is a guest post by Isabella Mori of Change Therapy. If you’d also like to guest post here on JobMob, follow these guest post guidelines.
Among career practitioners, we often speak of the “roller coaster of job search.” It looks like this:

Need I say more?
We’ve all been there, haven’t we?
If this is your story right now, why not just go back to watching Oprah in your pyjamas, accompanied with a big bowl of potato chips and maybe pick up the phone tomorrow to call up that lead that Joe gave you yesterday. Nah, tomorrow is not a good day. Maybe next week some time.
Sound familiar? If this happens to you, it’s possible you’re just procrastinating a bit, you’re resting for a few well-deserved days, or you’re just having an off-day.
Or – you’re depressed.
There’s those off days, and the job search blues – but if the pattern of lack of motivation, feeling utterly blah, unexplainable crying even, or other uncomfortable moods persist for more than two weeks, if the down parts of that rollercoaster last too long and happen too often, chances are you are in a depression.
The previous articles in this series have talked about causes and signs for depression. Let me talk a bit about what to do.
The good thing about depression – yes, there are a few good things about depression – is that often, there’s much that can be done, and I certainly can’t list all of them here. Today, I’d like to lean on the words of a fellow blogger, Emma McCreary, who commented on an article of mine, Two Views Of Depression, a little while ago and see how we can use her ideas to help with job search depression.
9 actions you can take today
- Identify cognitive distortions such as focusing on the negative (“Yes, I have a degree in accounting but last year I made I mistake on a spreadsheet!”) and deal with them.
- If you’ve been on anti-depressants before and they have helped, maybe it’s time to use them again – talk to your doctor!
- Don’t just “suffer it”; please realize that you have a right to feel serene and content, and nobody benefits from your feeling down.
- Share your experience with others, with your friends and family, with a local support group, or online.
- Visit a counselor; sometimes just one or two visits can make quite a difference.
- Practice meditation and relaxation.
- Educate yourself; read a book such as Listening to Depression.
- Recognize that depression is often a coping mechanism. Don’t reject your depression; accept your parts that look “broken.”
- Practice non-violent communication and learn to talk gently and compassionately to yourself.
About the author
Isabella Mori is Canada’s blogging psychotherapist. She blogs about psychology, creativity, spirituality and social justice over at Change Therapy and can be reached at moritherapy [at] shaw [dot] ca.
JobMob’s Job Search Depression Series
This article is the third in a 4-part series on job search depression.
- Causes of Job Search Depression and How To Prevent It
- Signs of Job Search Depression
- 9 Ways To Deal With Job Search Depression
- ERAN Gives You Emotional First Aid in Israel
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It’s gonna take more that this type of pop psychology to help the thousands that are in for a rough ride.
Comment by Alan Wilensky
— June 10, 2008 #
Thanks for your comment, Alan.
What suggestions do you have?
Comment by isabella mori
— June 10, 2008 #
My G-d, have we not sufficient reproofs that have overtaken us? Have we not seen how bedrock productivity has been robbed from the tradespeople and artisans and pushed up the ladder to the top 2% of professional executives and VC undertakers. ?
Ask for antidepressants? Where do you get this? Your crime is so egregious that you do not what that you commit it! Meditation? Good, for sure; but as a answer to a fundamentally ailing workforce?
Where does one begin to straighten out this kind of superficial journalism that aims to merely take up space – a phenomenon that has blossomed since the advent of blogging.
Comment by Alan Wilensky
— June 10, 2008 #
hi alan, thanks for continuing the conversation.
i’m guessing that you see work related depression in a sociopolitical context.
i don’t know what jacob’s plans are but i think that would definitely be another interesting blog post. interestingly enough, i just left a comment on another blog where i reminded the writer of the adage, “the personal is political and the political is personal.”
Comment by isabella mori
— June 11, 2008 #
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— April 22, 2009 #
I have a M.Ed. in Pyy. I am suppose to be helping people. I cannot find a job, I am in debt with school loans and I feel that my life is worthless. I thought I was strong, but sometimes I want to just give up.
Comment by Bonnie
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How are you supposed to get antidepressants and counseling if you don’t have a job to get health insurance? I need antidepressants but I have no way of getting them because I don’t have insurance since I don’t have a job. Its a viscious cycle!
Comment by Alana
— October 27, 2009 #
Where do you find the meds when you are out of work and have no money?
Comment by Juliet
— March 30, 2010 #
The graph is not realistic at all. You have to add in a lot more “no response,” “didn’t get the job,” and “rewrite resume” sections. Also add in a timeline at the bottom. Is that supposed to be days, weeks, or months?
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— June 3, 2010 #
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— June 27, 2010 #
This isn’t worthy enough to be called advice. Rather than reassuring luckless jobseekers like myself, you are patronizing them and telling them that the only real solution is to either read useless self-help books or bung up their systems with anti-depressants. Your stigmatization of us is simply perpetuating a self-fulfilling prophecy of being weak and inadequate. Thanks a lot ‘Doctor’-if you ever find yourself out of a job,test exactly how useful your own advice is.
Comment by Nikki
— July 26, 2010 #