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Work to truly understand his view. It’s likely that your current performance is a factor. Understand what you’re doing well in your current job from his perspective, as well as where things are breaking down. Resist the urge to talk about “promises” made by other leaders, or your expectations based on those discussions.
Share what you’re feeling and why. Gently share specific examples if it feels right. Laugh about how you’re just not “Tommy” anymore. He’ll relate… he was once a “Tommy” to someone too.
Ask if you can hang out with him for a day or two. Be sure to emphasize you want the “real deal.” If there’s a late-night fire drill, you’ll want to be included. Ensure you understand what the next level is really all about.
Ask if you can have a skip-level meeting with his boss for development. Ask for feedback on perceptions and what you can do to be most ready to support the company’s objectives.
Share your career story. Be open about your disappointments. Help him take the long view of how you’ve grown.
Listen carefully to the feedback and suggest a few developmental options to grow in these arenas. Ask for other specific ideas to include.
Set up a time for specific follow-up and calibration. Make this an ongoing conversation. Be sure you're continuing to ask what you can do to best support him or her. The ratio of helping to asking for help should always be at least 80/20. Most importantly be patient. The seeds you are planting will go a long way in building long-term credibility. Hang in there.
Karin Hurt is a leadership speaker, consultant, and MBA professor. She's a former Verizon Wireless executive with two decades of diverse cross-functional experience in sales, customer service and HR. Karin was named as a top 100 Thought Leader in Trustworthy Business Behavior by Trust Across America. She is author of, “Overcoming an Imperfect Boss: A Practical Guide to Building a Better Relationship With Your Boss.”
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