Comments on: 9 Ways To Deal With Job Search Depression

By: Jacob Share

Jacob Share — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 13:30:34 +0000

Melissa- The Lord helps those who help themselves. You need to stay active but not just for the sake of being active. You say you have good skills. If so, why are companies not hiring you? Ask them why they rejected you. That will give you a starting point to take action to right your job search ship.

Adam- it’s tough but you can and *will* pull through. Look at how you’re managing- you clearly have some good survival skills.

Stop scouring the help wanted ads; you’re just setting yourself up for a fall because those ads are being seen by many people, almost all of whom are going to get the same result as you- no job offer and a feeling of rejection.

Instead:
1) Contact any past bosses that liked your work and see if they have any more work for you or can refer you to someone who does.
2) If an entry-level job can tide you over for now, make yourself presentable and go for a walk to the nearest mall or part of town where there are many stores. Don’t even look for hiring signs, just go into the stores you’re qualified to help and ask if they have any openings. It could even be part-time.

More tips here:

Long Job Search? 25 Action Tips To End Yours ASAP

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 19:34:31 +0000

Prayer means never having to leave a voice mail message – He answers every ring.
Dear Lord, I am a lowly sinner, a product of the 60′s, experimented with things I knew were wrong. I had an abortion, did drugs, lied and didn’t care. I always worked since 14 and held jobs in office administration. Even went to work high numerous times when younger. Now at 57, I’m laid off my job of 7 years. Application after application for 15 months, no food stamps and very little unemployment left. I feel empty inside, as if Evil is punishing me for my younger lifestyle. I try to be happy around my kids and then cry when they go to their own homes. I enjoy working and have very good skills. Why, then Lord, can’t I get a job? I’m scared. I remember when I could laugh and not worry. I want those days back. Please forgive me for I know here on Earth we are not perfect. I know my faith is real and that you hear my prayers. I really need you now Lord. I wake up every day and thank God for everything in my life. He is good and knows me best. Hear my prayer Lord. With all my heart and soul, please forgive me.

By: Dave

Dave — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 05:48:28 +0000

I’m about ready to blow my brains out. srsly. I can’t take this much more. I f’n HATE it.

By: Valentina

Valentina — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 03:15:32 +0000

I’ve been looking for a job for the past 3 months, doing some temp work but not enough to even make a dent. The past 2 weeks have been especially hard for me, realizing the amount of interviews I’ve been to and that my savings are running out. I have another interview tomorrow with another “temp agency” so hope they can keep me busy for awhile. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even feel like eating at times, because I’m so preoccupied. Food costs money and money is what I don’t have now. It’s so hard living in a city and doing anything without spending some type of money. So I’m housebound for now, keeping my fingers crossed that things will start looking up for me.

By: anon

anon — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 08:51:36 +0000

*now *practice..also got lazy with the punctuation sorry :P

By: anon

anon — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 08:50:16 +0000

Thank god for alan for putting into words (if a bit harshly) my thoughts as I read that article. I’m sure whoever wrote this had a genuine desire to help and who knows it may have been the right pick-me-up for some teen out there but reading it noe after spending yet another night searching for jobs instead of sleeping , the last thing i want to hear is pop some anti-d’s , your depression doesn’t benefit anyone, hey presto meditate and your depression will be gone! there are no quick fixes honey! its just very amateur. You need to think a few graves deeper into those ideas if your ever to broach this topic again!
and dear god people anti depressants are THE LAST thing a depressed body/mind should be taking. anti depressants are the biggest selling point for pharmaceutical companies like Pfizer and the rest. after a year of s shit doctor jumping to give me them a new doctor doing her internship joined the pracice and recommended COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY without a mention of pills – the same success rate as anti depressants; 2/3rds she claimed. i start on tuesday we’ll see how things go! i’m only 20 but if i’ve learned one thing about this curse its that depression is not imaginary, it’s something that needs a lot of work and lifestyle changes not well-meaning pseudo science !!

By: Jacob Share

Jacob Share — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 18:26:30 +0000

Dear Bianca-

You are still the same amazing person with the incredible success story of supporting yourself from age 14!

All your skills and abilities are still there. You’re just going through a slump, like a baseball star who all of a sudden can’t seem to hit the ball anymore. If it happens to the best players – and it does, every single one – it can happen to you.

How do those other stars get out of their funk? By continuing to practice and play through it until that lucky day when they finally can hit again, and then they pick up from where they left off before the slump.

You need to do the same thing… with a bit of a twist. Those players have the support of their rich teams during their troubles, and if you’re on Ramen noodles, you also need some temporary extra support that will allow you to concentrate on a serious job search attempt for a position that matches your impressive skills.

Are there any family members or friends that can help you, or even host you for now?

How you tried contacting previous employers to see if they could use your skills once again?

By: Bianca

Bianca — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 17:39:58 +0000

I was laid off in 09′. From there I lost my car and my condo…couldn’t afford either anymore. I moved in with my boyfriend and quickly starting noticing my confidence and esteem diminish. At 28 I’ve worked since I was 14 years old and supported myself and I worked hard for everything I had. Then it was just gone. I didn’t just lose my financial stability, I lost my selfworth. And that was priceless. In 2010 I thought I was lucky enough to catch a break when I was given the opportunity to work a paid internship. It wasn’t my ideal job but it was a chance to jump off of my unemployment for awhile and work. When those 4 months came to an end I tried to refile. I was told that since this was an internship they didn’t have to report my earnings…be it paid or not. My unemployment has been done for a month now. I’ve been living literally pennies a day. Ramen noodles and what not.

I am mad constantly..I cry as I write this. I dont even know who this person is…I never cried over anything. I never rolled over and accepted things for what they were..

I lash out at everyone and anyone. I was successful and now I apply for anything..minimum wage jobs with uniforms.

By: Alan Wilensky

Alan Wilensky — Sat, 22 Jan 2011 21:05:08 +0000

Mimi, I hope you read this. Although 6 months is not a long stretch to be out of work in this economy, it is not a good situation. You have very good credentials, and that is saying a ton. Please, dear, hear me as one who was out of work for all of 08, part of 07, and I am self employed, still there were no clients with work.

Mimi, look at the skills you practiced at your last job, and break it worn into actual deliverable chunks that small and medium businesses can use. Place ads on all of the on-line sources and make a simple, ugly blog or website with a services menu. Write a couple of articles from the heart about your skills and how you envision delivering them to your potential clients.

Then, go out to everyone you know, every single friend and colleague, cousin, everyone, skip the on-line job board, screw them they all die, and ask about if they know anyone who needs these services, and, what kind of new and unfulfilled finance and other specialty services the small and med businesses need.

Come up with a flair and a twist, a special promotion or be the type of finance consultant that is open, humorous or some other trait that makes you stand out from the crowd.

DO not be like the typical people on TV interviews, “I have sent out 500 resumes. I cant get a job.” I have compassion for these folks, but you need to make personal connections with the clients or employer that holds the key to your next check. Do not work with HR, do use recruiters, the devil’s seed. Only use a professional headhunter that you can meet and talk with.

You have skills, you have an education, you can break out and deliver these skills directly without a big corp behind you. Do not think of this as “starting a company”, that is too much and stressful. Just put your self out there and do one Google search for me, “Havi Boorks”. Good luck dear, you can do it.

By: Mimi

Mimi — Sat, 22 Jan 2011 01:29:13 +0000

I am currently unemployed. I have been for 6 months. I have a MBA and BBA in Finance. I just chose the wrong job after graduation… listened to the wrong recruiter… and failed to take heed to the warning signs of the miserable failure of my former company. I no longer feel confident in my ability (even though others constantly praise me for my education and career accomplishments) to find a job or endure the realities of corporate America. Six months is a long time. I am at my breaking point. I feel like a failure. I don’t know what to do except for wait.